So i’ve concluded that boys are like hobby kits. Y’know the ones that you get when you’re small after your parents have gathered what a handful you really are?
Mine used to be little lego sets. Make a dinky car and see if thy Lego man (who seemed perpetually bald and jaundice-like) will fit. That progressed to like Lego sets with like motors in them so they’d move, science kits with home experiments to finally collecting aging and diseased stamps. No matter how tedious it was, in the end I did learn something which I can proudly say I still remember a wee bit today.
My dating experience rings to a slightly similar tune. My love for rap and Pac was stemmed out of me liking this guy when i was 15. Likewise with basketball, planes, rugby and with my boo-boo now; drums, music-mixing and computers. It went to the extent that I used to joke with my girlfriends that if ya ever was feeling bored, get a hobby and date a guy. You’d learn something.
Don’t get me wrong, there are some great boys. Ron for one, who surprised me by picking me up from the gym late one night. I told him I was going back to his place after training at 9 and that I’ll find a ride there. But whaddaya know, my sweetie was out waiting by the entrance. Or like Grant who’s so utterly endearing with his "I need to lose weight cause there’s a smidgen of fat on me" whine. I very well couldn’t see it for I was blinded by his abs.
And then like hobbykits, sometimes you’ll get a kit and you can’t very well work out the experiment cause there’s seems to be a part missing/faulty.
Yup. Well I’ve sorta been gifted with an unwanted kit and it’s getting crazier by the minute. See one fine clubbing night, I got to know this boy. Lets call him X. My affiliations with him was through Amy cause she was digging on X’s boy. Right, we’re going with the wingman gameplay over here so I chatted with X so that Amy could get her groove on with his boy. X seemed nice and cute to boot. I mean he was also cool with the fact that I have a boyfriend. He was such a mate too; keeping me company eventhough I told him it was unneccessary and fending off interested stragglers who’d lost their way to the bar and whaddayaknow, found me instead. So 7 clubbing hours later, I gave him my number.
-Now hold on-
It ain’t like what you think. I gave him my number in good faith, as the way new friends do. The boy was cool.
Or so I thought.
Well I thought wrong for the mofo’s crazy and displaying stalkerish qualities.
I’ve known him for like over a month now and he keeps asking me to go out with him, like as in a date. And then I made the mistake of telling him that I was going out clubbing with my girlfriends and for the whole night I was beseiged with "Where are you? Which club are you at? I’m gonna come and meet you" type txts.
So I stopped replying him. That was over 2 weeks ago. He kept texting me asking what I was up to and what my weekend was like and I just ignored them. Then when you’d think he’d get the msg and that hello, I don’t wanna have anything to do with you, he called my cellphone and had his number blocked so I couldn’t see that it was him calling. Thinking it could’ve been an overseas call (my dad cause he usually calls my cell when I’m at work), I answered and he got disgruntled at me when I told him that I was in a meeting and couldn’t very well talk.
Last night was the worst, I got like 5 txts. All of them angry and asking me what was the deal and didn’t I enjoy myself when I was with him?
So I set the record straight: told him to stop calling/txting me.
Said I remember telling him twice that I had a man and I’d appreciate it if he respected my wishes and not contact me no more.
We’ll see what he says. He hasn’t replied yet but then again it was like 8.45 in the morning when I told him.
I’ll keep ya posted. In the meantime, do you know what sucks though?
Unlike hobbykits, I can’t return this one to the manufacturer and get it replaced.
However I’ve now learnt that perhaps it’s not such a good idea to give my number out to ppl I meet one fine clubbing night even if they seem nice and friendly.
*sighs*